One of the most unavoidable and dangerous things for any church, or leader, to do is compare themselves to someone else. Comparison can place the expectations of another place and time on your current situation, which can often unjustly inflating or deflating your passion.
As a pastor I struggle with this. Though I love getting together with friends and acquaintances who also lead churches its sometimes had to avoid the comparison game that some seek to play. You evaluate their age, to their success, or the beauty of their situation and comparison quickly turns to envy. It’s a very slippery slope yet it’s a position that many leaders constantly put themselves in.
Since the situation of a church planter is a constant comparison game from supporters, church members, and your ego I thought I would share some of the things I have been doing lately to keep myself from comparing Horizon to any other church or situation. I’m not always successful in doing these things, but I know they help when I do practice them. These can work for so much more than just church leadership.
Make sure you’re not holding back progress. Live your life in such a way that you feel confident that you have access to the full measure of God’s ability. Seek HIS will, HIS vision, HIS direction, and HIS timing.
Constantly remind yourself of your achievements. There is never a victory too small to celebrate. By remembering the things that have gone right you are more likely to forget about the things that have gone wrong. Feeling great about the progress you are seeing eliminates the need to compare.
Remember why you do what you do. Do you do what you do for the praise or approval of others? Do you do it for yourself? Or, do you do it for the glory of God? Never measure something done for God by human standards. Remember God’s standards for your work.
Stay away from people who force you to play the comparison game. If you know a friend or a colleague that constantly wants to compare your work against his/hers? If so, you need to guard yourself from that situation. Some people only want to compare work to make themselves feel good. Don’t puff up their ego and deflate your confidence simply to maintain that relationship. Either let them know you don’t want to talk about it beforehand, or don’t go around them.